tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post3193574718736826911..comments2024-03-01T04:58:03.785-05:00Comments on Doctor Anonymous: Can the cycle be brokenDr. Ahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05207266669522973903noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-88569884067223814232007-04-18T18:14:00.000-04:002007-04-18T18:14:00.000-04:00I commented on the last post, before checking the...I commented on the last post, before checking these comments. My comment had much to do with a situation such as n=1 states here.<BR/><BR/>I commend him, or her, for taking steps in that very moment to get that student help. We all need to pay close attention to what they write, what is said, how they look, all of it.<BR/> <BR/>I see the problem as having more of a twist. It isn't about the officials not picking up on the warning signs ( in some cases), but it's starting to look like the issue is now, about the individual in question refusing to take the help offered them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-62139026389292407632007-04-18T00:03:00.000-04:002007-04-18T00:03:00.000-04:00I think even if the gunman was captured alive, peo...I think even if the gunman was captured alive, people would still be looking for a reason. It is human nature to look for whys in the unexplainable and tragic. Had he lived people would be looking at his parents, teachers, habits, past disappointments, music or tv much as they probably will anyway in his death. With or without his death, people are going to be cutting apart his life looking for clues and answers...which really doesnt matter much to the families left behind to suffer their own personal loss.(does finding out he watched one too many violent thriller killer shows make a difference NOW?) Reasons dont justify evil behavior. Cho Seung-Hui made a choice to kill. Ulitmately he made the deadly decision and the blame is his alone. MuddyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-36881881860847015612007-04-17T23:15:00.000-04:002007-04-17T23:15:00.000-04:00Pardon this pedantic comment: is this the result o...Pardon this pedantic comment: is this the result of freedom of speech and action which leads to apathy and no or little accountability...to each his own..."Am I my brother's keeper?" <BR/><BR/>Personally, I believe in censorship and discipline... without these there is little understanding on freedom.twilitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13673755529491874038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-77958789487893423312007-04-17T22:23:00.000-04:002007-04-17T22:23:00.000-04:00I have to agree with Anonymous, the amount of viol...I have to agree with Anonymous, the amount of violence on tv is over the top, blame Hollywood. When my grandsons were growing up, they did so without tv unti the age of 10 and then heavily monitored by their parents. The parents spent time with the kids and not one of them (3) has any agressive behaviour. By the way, we have had 3 school shootings here in Canada with deaths the last one just a few months ago in Montreal and we have GUN CONTROL here...it's not guns that kill people, it's people that kill people...ciaoRosittahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05722304052321553692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-88934433764991208432007-04-17T21:48:00.000-04:002007-04-17T21:48:00.000-04:00If this gunman did not kill himself and let's say,...If this gunman did not kill himself and let's say, was captured by police, I think people would feel different about blame. If Cho was going to stand trial for his crimes, I don't think so many people would be wondering who is to blame. Because he is dead, the vistims get no justice....so they must find someone else to pay. Looking at this problem as a whole...this IS a society that celebrates violence. Want proof? Look at video games, TV shows and things that are shown on the news on a daily basis. I know everyone can make their own chioces, but at some point there are problemed people who lose touch with reality and will snap. In Europe, they do not show violence on TV like they do here in America....ever notice that you rarely if ever hear of these things happening there? So Dr. A, the problem is with in all of the things you listed....behavior starts at home...parents, turn off the TV, don't allow games that glorify violence, and if your child seems withdrawn...GET THEM HELP. It's not always a phase.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-83347610189240677592007-04-17T20:15:00.000-04:002007-04-17T20:15:00.000-04:00n=1 says it all.n=1 says it all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-46987988617961393842007-04-17T19:11:00.000-04:002007-04-17T19:11:00.000-04:00I taught an undergraduate student who was overly q...I taught an undergraduate student who was overly quiet and retiring in a clinical nursing course. I discovered that he lied about providing care to a patient, and had actually neglected him. So I called him into my office, at which time he admitted feeling depressed. I offered to walk him - AT THAT MOMENT - to the student health center where they had on the spot emergency mental health services. He refused. He was not actively suicidal or homicidal. I asked him if he would speak to his academic advisor, who happened to be a psych. nurse clinician. He agreed, and I contacted her with him present and made an appointment. He never went. I failed him in the clinical course, after having offered him tutoring and him subsequently telling me that he was switching majors voluntarily to engineering. Months later, he petitioned to have his grade altered to passing. I refused, and my chairperson overrode me and passed him. After I left that university (partially over that incident), the student's brother - his lawyer - contacted me by letter and threatened suit.<BR/><BR/>I telephoned him, got his assurance that the student was having the brother represent him, and proceeded to tell him about the depression, the refusal to take part in counseling, tutoring or to follow basic clinical instruction, and hence, to keep his patient from being endangered (not being his healthcare provider, my role as an instructor allowed me to share more than I could otherwise). Never heard from either of them again - but he had many red flags: passive, quiet, then rage and anger. What else can one do?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-10314844646461382402007-04-17T17:23:00.001-04:002007-04-17T17:23:00.001-04:00I have just learned of this tragedy, as our area w...I have just learned of this tragedy, as our area was hit hard by the Nor'Easter, leaving us without power.<BR/><BR/>I could tell you there are steps being taken to protect the school age children, but can't say an awful lot about this. There are a lot of things underway, major changes, and they have been in the works before this tragedy.<BR/><BR/>One of the things that upsets me so much, is some of the parents attitudes when I restrict them from entering where our children are in classrooms. They will complain that I block them from going anywhere they want to in the building. I've told them, "I am here to protect these children, I don't know "who" you are, their safety comes first." Would you want me to back down? <BR/><BR/>I could never live with myself if I didn't do everything within my power to see that these children remain safe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-32835050600218299452007-04-17T17:23:00.000-04:002007-04-17T17:23:00.000-04:00There were early warning signs herein with this st...There were early warning signs herein with this student and more should have been done to address the brewing rage and actual violence this student expressed.<BR/><BR/>Very sad, indeed. But early action is key.Dr. Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06340730498047128203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-46131337728648655972007-04-17T15:34:00.000-04:002007-04-17T15:34:00.000-04:00You may be interested in reading this document fro...You may be interested in reading this document from 2002 by the Secret Service:<BR/><A HREF="http://www.secretservice.gov/ntac/ssi_final_report.pdf" REL="nofollow"><BR/>The Final Report and Findings of the Safe School Initiative:<BR/>Implications for the Prevention of School Attacks in the United States</A><BR/><BR/>What's sad is that in almost every case of school violence, at least one person knows about either the plan or that something is going to happen. The question should be why won't people take responsibility and report if something doesn't seem right before violence occurs? If a friend or relative is acting strange or talking about violence, why doesn't the person report it to someone....anyone??? We can't profile these people, so instead of passing blame around after the fact, we need to start attacking the problem before it even happens. <BR/><BR/>If you do look at the report, make sure to also look at Appendix A and notice the increase of school violence over the last decade. And this doesn't even list any of the attacks after 2001. Scary!sophizohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00565728981524456790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-74570328613319373842007-04-17T15:06:00.000-04:002007-04-17T15:06:00.000-04:00Hindsight is 20/20 and people often forget that. T...Hindsight is 20/20 and people often forget that. There is no way that the university could have known or prevented the masssacre that followed the shooting in the dorm. <BR/><BR/>Personal accountability is my soapbox so I'll stop there except to say that yes, I agree with you on that point. Regardless of one's circumstances or surroundings, people make the choice to act the way they do. We have too many "rising from the ashes" and "Rags to riches" cases in history to convince me otherwise. It's all a matter of choice and personal motivation. The only thing in life that any of us can control is our own mental attitude. The sooner people understand that, the better off this world will be.<BR/><BR/>So enough excuses.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16604068110452745043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29955732.post-73405747542807492492007-04-17T14:10:00.000-04:002007-04-17T14:10:00.000-04:00dr. A, i only have questions...and a lot of mixed,...dr. A, i only have questions...and a lot of mixed, confusing but all strong emotions. no single answer. so yeah, i don't know.<BR/><BR/>may<BR/>www.aboutanurse.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com